She Who Fears

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Potty Training

Jordyn BrazilComment

One of the perks of having a blog is having a place to store your "mom-hacks" if you will. I do a lot of sharing over on the 'gram and I get asked a lot about potty training. Somehow, Mattheus was out of diapers - officially - shortly after his second birthday. My approach was very laid back, natural (big surprise, much wow) and child-led. I attempted to do the whole "drink a gallon of juice and lockdown" method and LOL. Can you just imagine my child peeing everywhere while I'm stuck under two nursing newborns? Because it felt like a joke.

What we did probably won't work for everyone, but if I can help anyone with a stress free transition outta diapers, I feel that sharing my experiences can be valuable.

  1. I attribute a lot of our success to the fact that we used cloth diapers. Disposables immediately wick away the feeling of being wet, but you don't get that with cotton cloth diapers. If you don't cloth diaper, I think that my "method" can still work for you.
  2. Mattheus was a very obvious pooper so from about 7 months, whenever we were at home and I was able to, I'd pick Mattheus up, unfasten his diaper as we walked back to the bathroom, and sit him on the toilet to finish pooping. Because I started at such a young age, Mattheus was never afraid of the toilet or pooping in it. I started with the twins around 6 months, but they're more silent poopers so I don't always catch them. However, Kinsley has caught on pretty quick and by 15ish months she mostly only poops on the toilet.
  3. Start naked. Once summer hit, I decided to just leave Bub pants less and leave my back door open if we weren't out back playing. I always just told him to go pee in the grass and so then even when he was inside, if we were closer to the back door than the toilet, we'd run to the grass to pee. I get that this might not work for everyone, but the naked factor was pretty important. I think that this increases the child's awareness of what happens when they go to the bathroom. I mean, they've literally just peed and pooped into a diaper until now so that seems natural to them.
  4. We never made a big deal out of the "training". We didn't do a special song or a timer or treats or stickers or charts or anything. I think that helped Mattheus to know that using the toilet is just something that we do.
  5. A C C I D E N T S - Accidents happen. A lot actually. So just be prepared to not lose your mind. We also didn't make a big deal about these either. We would just put him on the toilet, whether we caught him mid pee/poo or after he was done, and say "Pee/poo goes in the toilet. Not on the ground." Now if there is an accident, Mattheus can take off his own clothes, clean his mess, and put his clothes into the laundry. Hallelujah. 
  6. C H O N E S - Once Mattheus seemed to be making it onto the toilet consistently, I added in pants to the situation. Once he was good with not having accidents in those we added underwear. 
  7. O U T I N G S - Outings were kind of tricky. At first I decided to keep diapering Mattheus for outings because I didn't feel like I was ready to be in situations in bathrooms with newborn twins and trying to help a toddler pee. (Stranger lady from the Costco bathroom that held Kins that one day? You da real MVP. Thanks for not stealing my baby). Once we were ready for outings, I mainly kept them brief --bike around the block after using the bathroom at home, quick run to tarjaaaaayyy--and when we got to the location the first thing I would do is ask Bub if he felt like he needed to pee, show him where the bathroom is at, and then remind him of how much of a bummer it is to have an accident and have to go home. We only had a few outing accidents. No poop.
  8. N A P S - For naps, I decided to just go for it and have him go pee beforehand and then nap naked. He did fine and he actually dropped his nap not too long after this anyways.
  9. N I G H T - At first for sleeping I tried this method where I woke him up to have him go pee every few hours....buttttt that just didn't work for us for a few reasons. One; Mattheus is a lot like me. We don't like being woken up. So, he was always reeeeaaally grumpy and threw big fits and it became really miserable, which is not what I wanted the experience to be. Two; occasionally, Miles or I would not wake up to the alarm to wake up Mattheus to fight him to pee on the toilet and he'd end up peeing the bed. Three; despite doing the doubled up sheets system, I was washing bedding CONSTANTLY. And on top of all of our clothes and the twins' diapers and our other linens, Iw as swamped. Sooooo, I finally just decided to put him in diapers until he was waking up pretty dry and then switched him to pull ups until he was waking up dry consistently. To be honest, we still have a night time accident every now and again and I'm not entirely sure why, but I am ok with it. The kid is hardly three!

I'm honestly just kind of spacing on what else was a big deal since I'm not in the thick of it anymore, but if I think of anything else I will definitely add it to this post. I plan on following this pretty much to a tee with the twins but, you know, twins. They tend to like to complicate things! Ha!

Please feel free to shoot me a message via instagram or email if you have any questions at all about any of this!

I'm so happy to help!

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Jordyn BrazilComment

We all say it: “the days are long, but the years are short,” but when you add two kids to your one kid, I think that saying becomes even more relevant. Here we are, exactly one year after welcoming Kuyper and Kinsley earthside and it honestly feels unreal to me.


You finally find a routine that works and then they’re into the next leap, needing something new from you  There were days, long, long days where I cried nearly as much as my three kids combined. Being a twin mom, a mom of three under two, has been hard . This last year has stretched me and worn me so thin; it’s been nonstop and left me wondering how I can possibly muster enough energy or emotion or love or grace or literally anything at all to step forward and keep going on.


The days are long.  

But then, where did the time go? Didn’t he — no, she— just roll over for the first time? Wasn’t it her — or maybe it was him, yes, definitely him — that just said his first word? It happens too quickly. One has a first and then the next does it too.   


My heart could burst with the amount of overwhelming joy these children have brought me. Yes, double the work, but maybe quadruple the laughter. Twins are so special. Watching two humans develop into their own separate personalities, despite experiencing nearly the exact same conditions every day is truly magical. 


The years are short. 

The past 365 days have flown — I’m not kidding you flown  — by. They were literally born yesterday and now they are one. I can’t wrap my head around it and it’s quite possible I just don’t want to. 

Praise God for Kuyper Shea and Kinsley Joy Brazil. They are two extraordinary children whom I love with the deepest parts of my being and getting to mother them is an honor I hope to be blessed with many more years of.